It's Okay to Want More: A Note for Deeply Feeling Women in Midlife from a St. Louis Missouri Therapist

You’ve always been the strong one.

It’s become the unspoken expectation — that you’ll hold everything together, manage all the moving parts, carry the emotional load, and somehow still smile through it all. But the truth is: you’re exhausted. And maybe even a little resentful.

Let me say this clearly:

You are not greedy for wanting more. You are not a burden for needing space to breathe.

You will not become “too much” if you begin reconnecting with your authentic self.

After years — maybe decades — of building the life you thought you were supposed to want (whether that’s a family, a career, a solo journey, or some combination of it all), it’s no surprise if you now find yourself wondering, “Where am I in all of this?”

Maybe you’ve spent so much time being everything for everyone that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to take up space just for you.

Maybe you feel guilt for wanting more — because you’re already “so lucky,” right?

Maybe the life you built doesn’t quite fit anymore, but you don’t know what would.

That’s not selfish. That’s awakening.

You might be someone who feels deeply — always have.

Maybe you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive” or “too intense,” or you’ve learned to dial yourself down just to fit in.

You notice everything.

You carry the emotions of others like they’re your own.

You think deeply, feel deeply, and sometimes feel like you’re living a double life — the competent, composed version of you on the outside, and the messy, questioning version no one else sees.

If you resonate with this, you may be what’s often called a gifted or emotionally intense woman — someone with a rich inner world, high expectations of yourself, and a deep hunger for meaning.

But when you’ve spent your life over functioning, masking, or adapting to others’ needs, that inner richness can start to feel like a burden instead of a gift.

What if therapy wasn’t about “fixing” anything?

What if it was about finally being seen?

Not as the role you’ve been playing — the helper, the high-achiever, the emotionally competent one — but as the real you.

The one who wants softness.

The one who craves connection without performing.

The one who’s quietly wondering, “Is there more to life than just coping?”

There is.

And you don’t have to figure it out alone.

I work with deeply feeling, gifted women — especially those in midlife — who are ready to return to themselves.

If that’s you, I have a few openings for spring and summer. Whether you’re ready for weekly sessions or just want to start with a conversation, you’re welcome here.

This is your permission slip to want more.

Not because you’re ungrateful, but because you’re finally listening to yourself.

I offer virtual therapy throughout Missouri and in-person sessions in the St. Louis area. Aetna and private pay options available.